No two relationships are exactly alike, but there are certain behaviors that are present in every healthy relationship. When you are in a healthy relationship, you and your partner engage in certain habits that convey how much you love, appreciate, and trust one another. While some of these will just come naturally, relationships still take work, and it is important to develop healthy habits in your relationship now so you can enjoy years of future happiness.
Showing your partner respects means accepting and valuing them for who they are. Respecting your partner is especially important when you have a disagreement. Do not attack their personal character or belittle them. When you disagree with your partner, respect the fact that you are different people who have different experiences and beliefs. How you approach these situations has long term effects on your relationship.
Focusing on the positive
An unfortunate habit that many people fall into is constantly criticizing their partners. No one is perfect, including you. Before speaking ill of your partner, make an effort to say two positive things about them first. If you find yourself at a loss for any positive qualities in your partner, it may be an indication that you are not meant for each other.
Staying in touch throughout the day
These days, everyone is juggling many different plates. When you are very busy, it can be easy to go through a day without even thinking about your partner. However, it is very beneficial to your relationship to make it a habit to just check in with your partner throughout the day. Take a moment to send them a loving text message, or give them a call on your lunch break. Keeping in touch will help keep your relationship strong.
Touching each other daily
Many couples, especially after they have been together for a long time, lose the physical intimacy of their relationships. However, simply hugging each other every morning before leaving for work can have a great impact on your mental health and the intimacy in your relationship. Physical contact releases oxytocin, which is referred to as the “love hormone.” Oxytocin is considered crucial to intimacy and pair bonding, so when you make a point to share physical intimacy in some form every day, you deepen your relationship.
Never take your partner for granted. You can express appreciation for your partner in many ways. For example, something as simple as bringing your partner coffee every morning shows how much you care. Discuss with your partner about what their “love language” is, meaning how they like to express their affection. For some people, physical touch is their love language, so it is best to show your appreciation through a hug or a kiss. Other people prefer love to be communicated through spending quality time together. Discuss what love language you each prefer, and make sure to communicate your appreciation through their preferred language every day.
At New Transitions Counseling, we would love to help you establish healthy habits in your relationship with couples therapy. If you and your partner need counseling in Illinois, contact us to schedule an appointment today.