In this world of meditation apps and yoga studios on every corner, you’ve probably heard about all the incredible benefits of mindfulness for your own well-being. According to research, by turning our attention to the present moment without judgment, we’re able to experience a variety of benefits, including stress reduction, improved heart health, and greater job satisfaction. The benefits of mindfulness don’t stop there — it can also help your relationship.
There are more distractions than ever, which means it can be especially difficult for couples to connect. Mindfulness can be a powerful way to strengthen your bond. Here are some techniques you can use from mindfulness within your relationship.
One of the central components of mindfulness is connecting to the breath. This can be a helpful tool when you have conflict with your partner. Every couple will disagree from time to time, and these present important opportunities to be present with each other. If you’re in an argument with your partner and you’re feeling frustrated, take a moment to breathe. Inhale deeply for five seconds, then exhale for five seconds. Use this time to decide to listen to your partner rather than shut down the conversation.
Give a Compliment
Everyone wants to hear a compliment from their partner, but if you’re ruminating on the past or worrying about the future, it’s difficult to identify opportunities to do so. You can better discover moments to send along a kind compliment by being mindful and focusing on your partner. This will make it easier to pick up on moments where you are grateful for your partner’s qualities.
Pay Attention to Triggers
We all have certain triggers when it comes to relationships, whether they are from deep-seated childhood trauma or a previous toxic partnership. It’s important to become familiar with your partner’s triggers to show them the emotional support they need. For example, if you know your partner is triggered by yelling, make a point to be mindful of this and keep your tone softer during arguments.
When your partner is talking, it’s tempting to multi-task. You might be in a hurry to get dinner on the table, or worried about an issue at work and need to send a quick email about it. You might be preoccupied with something else so even if you are sitting and listening, you’re not truly hearing them. There are so many distractions in this world that one of the most profound things you can do for another person is just be fully present with them. Whether your partner is telling you about a problem they’re facing or simply telling you about their day, try to actively listen to what they’re saying and focus solely on them for that moment.
If you’re prioritizing more mindfulness in your life, this can be a wonderful thing to share with your partner. Prioritize spending more quality, present time together by turning off screens after a certain point in the evening. If you usually sit in front of the TV or browse on your phones in silence, this is a good opportunity to intentionally carve out time to connect.
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